Cult Courting

Dear Wynne,
I'm dating this girl who insists that if I want our relationship to progress I must attend church with her. Most people probably don't have any qualms with making this type of sacrifice, but my girlfriend does not belong to a mainstream religion. In fact, I would categorize it more closer to a cult. I did go to one "service" and was practically publicly ousted in front of the entire group for not participating in their rituals. They don't sacrifice animals or anything that heinous, but I'm not comfortable joining-in in something I do not agree with. What should I do? I really like this girl.

Not in a Cult
Rigby, ID


Dear Cult,
A couple things first - you did not say how long you have been seeing this girl and what beliefs, if any, you cherish. So, if it's a new relationship lose the girl. I'm sure you can find someone with whom you are a bit more compatible. If you've been with the girlfriend for a while now, why the hell has this not been an issue before? Something must have snapped. Perhaps you should make your own ultimatum, or maybe even make-up your own religion for her to adhere to. Let's see how well that blows over.

Wynne